First of all we want to thank everybody AGAIN for the outpouring of love and support for our family. AGAIN we have received meals, treats, gifts, emails, visits, comments on our blog etc that have lifted our spirits and made us feel loved. For that we say a big THANK YOU!
Now about Gracie. We spent the day talking to all sorts of doctors. We talked to our cardiologist, Dr. Su, our surgeon Dr. Kouretas, and several members of the heart transplant team. It has been determined that Gracie will for sure need a heart transplant. That is her only option at this time. This morning in their cardiac conference, the Glenn surgery was determined to be way too risky. We have full confidence in the team at Primary Children's. They have known Gracie from the start and know what is best for her. With hundreds of people praying for Gracie, we are confident that the doctors have been inspired to lead her down this path at this time.
They drew a lot of blood and will run several tests on it over the next few days. They have ordered her to be on full time oxygen at home. We are home now and Gracie is doing well relatively speaking.
The three main factors in Gracie getting a heart are:
1. Her panel reactive antibodies (PRA) number. This number tells us if she has developed any antibodies which would contribute to her rejecting her new heart. There are several antibodies and they can be rated anywhere from very high to very low. So it is a complicated test that involves several different ratings on several different levels. The best result is a zero and you can have a number as high as like 15. They would like to see Gracie's levels at 3 or under.
They hope to have these test results by Friday or Tuesday of next week. (If her antibodies come back with a high number, Primary Childrens DOES NOT treat that with immunosuppresant drugs. Other hospitals treat children with different drugs to get the antibodies to 'settle down' so that they are a better match on the donor list. Primary's has not found much success in that way of treatment. They feel that this just puts the antibodies 'to sleep' and that they come back after you have the heart and you are back to square one with problems rejecting the organ. They said if her numbers come back high, it greatly reduces her chances of getting a heart.)
2. Her weight (meaning they have to find a donor that is a match within her weight range)
3. Her blood type. Her blood type is O positive which is more rare. This will make her chances of getting heart a little bit harder because she can only accept an O blood type donor heart.
The average wait time for a heart is 3 months. The truth is, you just never know when a heart will become available. Their absolute shortest wait time was 12 hours and their longest was an older patient who waited a year. They give you a pager and you are basically on call 24/7 from the time you are listed on the donor list until you get a heart.
If all the tests come back looking good then we will just be here at home, living our 'normal life' waiting for the call. If time goes on and she has not received a heart yet and she starts to fail, they may have to do the surgery that I mentioned yesterday. That surgery entails removing her right ventricle to pulmonary artery conduit (her SANO tube) and shunting open her pulmonary artery and repairing her tricuspid valve which is said to have a lot of leakage. Dr. K. said this surgery would be risky and would be something we would do only if we had to to prolong her life until she could get a heart.
There are about 200 babies on the heart transplant list at any given time and only about 50-70 hearts available per year. You can do the math. You either get a heart, or die waiting. However, the coordinator that we talked to said that more often than not, the babies she works with get a heart. So we will try to be optimistic and think that Gracie will be one of the 50-70!!!!
There a several financial challenges ahead. They have to get our insurance to approve the transplant BEFORE they list us. Our insurance company covers Primary's but is not 'approved' as an in network provider for heart transplants. They will have to try and get our case approved on a single case basis. They are working on another transplant with our insurance company and are hoping to throw us into the negotiations on that one. If they cannot get it approved as an in network provider, they usually negotiate something like a 70-30 split. A transplant costs anywhere between $300,000 to $2 millions dollars. So, our 30% portion would be between $90,000 to $600,000. Can anyone say BAKE SALE? (just kidding!?) Plus the drugs she would go home from the hospital will cost us between $700-$800 a month. Whew!!
If all goes well and she gets a heart, she will be in the hospital after surgery for about 4-6 weeks. Upon going home, she will be on very strong immunosuppressant drugs which will severely limit her contact with the outside world for a few months. She will be on about 15 medications that will taper down to maybe 3-4 after a couple of years. Her condition will require twice weekly visits to Primarys for a few months immediately after and goes down in frequency from there.
So I asked the transplant nurse what her life would be like at age 3-4 (not including any feeding issues) and she said that Gracie would be on a couple heart drugs and probably some vitamin supplements. She would be a 'normal' child who could do pretty much anything she wanted. Physically, she will be better off with a whole heart than she would've been with a half of a heart. There are no real limitations after her body accepts the heart and is thriving. But getting to this point is the real challenge.
This post is long but I wanted to include as much information as I could while I remembered it. For now, we would love for people to pray for two things: that her antibodies blood test will come back low and that our insurance will approve a heart transplant. At that point we will be able to be listed on the national donor list and can focus our prayers on getting Gracie a new heart!!!
Thank you so much for all of your support. We will of course be posting the test results, etc. as we get them.
57 comments:
Michele,
A plan. A plan is always good. It sounds like they were very thorough today. I'm sure you're overwhelmed and exhausted. I was doing fine reading your post until the crack about the bake sale. Then the tears came. It's all so overwhelming. We have to laugh, right? There are SO MANY prayers in the works for Gracie. All of our faith and energy are behind you.
Much love,
Mindi and McKay
We will be praying for those two things, Michele...and many many more years of reading 'Gracie stories'. She has blessed our lives more than you'll ever be able to imagine. Thank you once again for sharing her beautiful life with us. We will be so happy to hear more about her progress.
We love you.
The Petersons
My first thought is...Okay, this can happen. With God and Gricie...nothing is impossible! Your job is to just love that baby and leave everything else to Heaven Father. He will work thru your friends and family so let us help with everything we can. Much love, Liz
Tom and Michele,
We are speechless! We will continue to pray, pray, pray!
Love,
The Mortensens
p.s. I love to bake!
We are praying for LOW antibodies!! We want Gracie to get her perfect heart!
Looking forward to seeing test results!
Andrea
Wow!!! That is all that I can say. I have so many emotions that have surfaced at this moment. If you need anything or have an questions, please feel free to ask. I know that I had many when Kaidence was getting her heart. The waiting is the hardest part. If it makes you hopeful, I am amazed at how well Kaidence has done. We are only a year out and (besides the eating) Kaidence is a normal little girl. I pray that all will work out for little Gracie and that she too can have the life of a "normal" little girl. May the Lord continue to bless your family.
WOW! I can't believe you can even put two words together after the last couple of days you've had. Thanks for explaining it all. Put us on your list of people praying for low antibodies and approval from your insurance. I feel another miracle or two coming your way. I hope you can feel all of the love and prayers coming from the Peterson fam. We love you guys!!!
Nat and family
I am so sorry that you are having to go down this road. Having said that though, I am so grateful for the option. I would love to talk to you about any questions, concerns, etc. This is such a spiritual and amazing road that you are about to go down. You will feel the love of the Savior with you and your children every step of the way. We will most definatly prayer for Grace. I know that at the beginning it is very overwhelming and there are a lot of negative statistics. But it is a beautiful thing. Sending you all of our prayers and love please feel free to contact me. I will tell the transplant team that they are allowed to give you our phone number or email. Hang in there, Much love, Hilary Cook-Daxtons mommy
Oh gosh Michelle, I'm waiting for that whole 'faith of a mustard seed' thing to come to pass. They say you can move mountains...with all the prayers going out for your sweet Gracie and the insurance, maybe our faith can all pull together and move this 'mountain'. We're also praying you'll find peace and comfort through the long road ahead.
Much love! Thank you so much for sharing! You're incredible. =)
Wow, Michele. I can't imagine how you guys must feel right now. It all sounds very overwhelming, but it sounds like you've got a clear picture of what has to happen. We will be praying that it all works out!!
I am so impressed with how much information you've remembered and understand in order to share with everyone else. I'm not sure I would be as lucid as you in this situation. Your baby girl has a stronger little body, and an even stronger spirit. I will pray for her and your family. In the mean time keep loving that Gracie girl with all your blessed heart.
My heart is heavy for you after reading the last couple posts. I can only imagine what this feels like for you as parents. It will be a long road ahead, but Gracie has already proved to be a fighter. Praying strength for each day and bright hope for tomorrow. Blessings and hugs to your special little girl!
Mandy
I have followed Gracie's story since she was born. I wanted to let you know, that while Transplant can be scary, it also has wonderful benefits not available with just repair surgeries. My son Noah had his transplant before he was 30 days old. He will celebrate 2 years post transplant this July.
We were also in the same boat as our insurance didn't approve Primary's as a Transplant Center. So we ended up going to The Childrens Hospital in Denver. I would go back in a heart beat. Everything about that hospital and staff is fantastic. If Gracie ends up needing to go to another center, I can recommend Denver very highly.
My family's prayers are with Gracie and your family during this time.
Much Love,
Crystal
Noah's Mommy
Heart Transplant Recipient 07.07.07
I'm not sure if you know who Paul Cardall is, but he is an absolutely amazing LDS pianist and composer. He was born with TGA and tricuspid atresia, underwent many surgeries through his life, and is now 35 years old with a beautiful wife and 3-year-old daughter. He is currently awaiting a heart transplant now. He keeps a blog detailing his journey with CHD and his faith and optimism bring me much strength, so I wanted to share it with you. http://mytricuspidatresia.blogspot.com/
As always, I pray for Gracie and your family.
I will be hoping that Gracie qualifies for the transplant and that your insurance comes through. You are such a strong person, Michelle. Hang in there.
I was told about your daughter Gracie. What a beautiful girl. I can't even begin to comprehend what you're facing but I know that you guys are in great hands. The team at Primary's is incredible. Dr. Kouretas is a great man. Their work is a passion and they are good souls. Seeing the pictures of Gracie reminds me of God's tender love. My wife and I, along with our 3 yr old daughter, will pray for you and your sweet girl.
Saying a lot of prayers for little Gracie tonight!!!
I hope she gets on the list soon.
Okay...I'm so excited there is hope. We'll be praying for you and for the tests to come back with positive results...and for your insurance company to be feeling generous!
Ready to help with fund raiser's whenever you are!
Love, Kim
Still praying and now planning a bake sale!!
-Shayla, Idaho
We will pray for both of those things for you. Do you guys have a supplemental insurance policy in place? Call AFLAC and see if you can work it out because they will write you a check for a transplant for $25,000 effective as soon as the policy is in place (no waiting period from what we have been told). It will definitely not cover that cost, but that could definitely help some of those expenses. Heart hugs to you guys!
Hello old friend. I just happen to check your blog yesterday because I thought it was getting close to surgery day and what a turn of events. I am happy to hear that you have good doctors that are taking care of your little sweet pea. I want you to know our thoughts and prayers are with Gracie and your family. By the way, I am a great baker. You use to call me betty crocker.
I'm completely speechless...just know that we love you and continually pray for you all. Gracie is incredibly blessed to be loved so abundantly by so many.
Hang in there you guys! My sister-in-law and I were just saying how strong and miraculous little Gracie is! God has a plan. She has come so far and although she has further to go, she is an amazing example of perseverance! I wish we could do more for you (you know we would be there at the bake-sale:)
Heart hugs,
Emily
WOW, I have been thinking about you guys for the last few days, I'm sorry for your bump, but I know it will all work out. You are in our prayers, I hope you will feel the peace of our Savior and can wait at home for her new beautiful heart.
Lots of prayers for Baby Gracie and your family! (((HUGS)))
Thanks for the detailed update - you have such a great way of explaining it all so all of us non-medical brain types can understand. Thanks for that! And, of course we will continue hoping and praying. I am so amazed by you and your amazing composure through everything. What an example! We are pulling for you, Gracie!
praying, praying, praying!!!!
oh i'm logged in as jason. jen left the above comment but we are all praying and sending our love your way.
Gracie is a miracle girl. With Heavenly Father's help she has proved it before, and we know she can and will do it again! Our prayers are with your whole family, we are hoping you will be able to find peace and comfort throughout this journey.
You are in our prayers, Loves to Gracie :)
You don't know me but I have been following your blog from the beginning. My prayers have been with your family for some time now. They will continue.
Kim
What a detour this has turned out to be. We're hopeful for good test results and the possibility of a "whole heart." But I know playing the waiting game will be hard. I'm so happy to know that you are back home and Gracie can rest in her beloved crib. I'll call you soon.
Sending lot's of hugs and prayers,
Leslie
Oh Michelle - what a roller coaster! I have tears streaming down my cheeks imagining all you've been through the past week. I hope and pray that everything goes the best it can so Gracie can get a new heart that will allow her to have a full and well life. Please know that we are thinking of you and you are in all our prayers.
Every time I read your blog I can't help but cry. Because I am in awe of what an amazing family you are, how strong you each are and the amazing, yet very tried, spirit of your little 'Sweetheart'. You are a remarkable family, and truly each of you are an example for so many others.
Waiting on the Heart Transplant list had its pros and cons, good days and bad. But we are so grateful we were given the option to do it for Grace. So, although it will be a long road, I am SO grateful that you are being given this option. It truly will be such a blessing, and another event to add on to your evergrowing list of miracles.
We are praying and praying hard, and will continue to do so each and every day until Gracie is in the clear!
PLEASE call me or email me if you have ANY questions...or just would like someone to talk to about it. Or not, if it is overwhelming. :)
my email is andersen.alysia@gmail.com
I know it helped me a lot to talk to Shauntelle while we waited...but.
Just know you are in so many people's thoughts and prayers. We love you all and especially your little 'Sweetheart'.
Love the Andersens
Grace's mom
You Bet I'll be Praying!!! It is good to hear a plan!
Love and Prayers,
Holy Heck! Poor little Gracie girl. She's got a tough road ahead along with all the Gledhill gang. Hey we could totally start a donate to Gracie button that everyone can put on their individual blogs. (You know like Nei Nei's blog!) We can have bake sales, auctions, neighborhood garage sales. We are creative people... when the going gets tough, we get going right!
We'll keep praying. Thanks for being specific in what exactly we should pray for.
Just want you to know that my thoughts and prayers continue to be with your family and am very hopeful that Gracie will be able to be a great candidate with her levels and that the "perfect" heart will find it's way to her just like baby's Benjamin received after being listed for only 2 days.
When Hope was born back in 2000, because of the complexity of her heart, a transplant wasn't an option, but now almost 9 years later, advances have been made and kids with the same CHD(s) are getting them. What a blessing for so many.
Praying for Gracies continued strength until that heart arrives and am very hopeful that your insurance can be worked out as this should be the LEAST of your worries.
Heart Hugs,
Carolyn Quigley
President, IHH
I have stumbled upon your blog from other heart mommies. And wow, what a journey you all are going through. I am certainly praying for Gracie.
I know things are CRAZY, to say the least, right now, but could you think of adding a "button" to your page that we could take and put on our own blogs to direct even more prayers to Gracie as she embarks on the transplant journey? Or perhaps someone could do it for you. I would offer, but have NO idea how!!!
Anyways, my prayers are with you all.
Thank you for the posts. You really explain things well. Hang in there. I'll be thinking of you and your family and sending good thoughts your way. Gracie seems very strong! Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Amy Rodgers
I have been a lurker on your blog since just a bit before Gracie came home. She, along with your family, have been in my prayers. Since reading your post yesterday I can't get you guys out of my mind. Add my family to those praying for Gracie.
Hey guys, I hope things go swiftly, all panels are positive and that we get our "Gigi" a new heart soon. She gets the trophy right!
We will be specific in our prayers...
From My "Heart",
Brynn
We are praying for you and thinking of you. We love you guys!!!!!!
Hang in there little Gracie!!!!
Lots of love,
The Bunker's
Just to let you know, you have many, many prayers coming from Iowa. God is good. Stay strong.
We are praying for your entire family and little Gracie!! I know she is in the Lord's hands. Your entire family is such an inspiration to so many. I wish that you didn't have to go through this, but know that Heavenly Father knows more than us all and this is part of His plan. All our love. If you want us to bake cookies in California let us know.
It is impossible for me to find words thatcould ease the roller coaster of emotions that you must be experiencing. Gracie and your family are in my mind and my prayers all the time. Thank you for letting us know how and what specific items to pray for and for letting us know what is happening with Gracie. She has shown such strength and resiliance. I will pray that God continues to provide strength to her and all of you as you are heading down this next road. Tom, anything I can do for you at work, let me know and I am there.
At this point, all her life she's been a fighter, beaten the odds and proven to produce miracles. I have faith that, once again, this will be a positive experience for Gracie and the Gledhill's.
Keep your arms and legs in the car at all times, keep the seat belt tightly fastened, because here we go on ANOTHER roller coaster ride. The other one wasn't much fun, and made me a little motion sick.
Gracie truly is in God's hands now. He has mysteriously kept her heart beating this long, hopefully he can keep it beating a little while longer until they can find a good, healthy whole heart!
She is always in our thoughts and prayers.
WOW! Bake Sale? Your the best baker I know, I should have learned more from you back in the day! You and little Gracie are in our family's prayers. I am sure that there is inspiration to be had for you and the Dr's as you make these big decisions. I will be praying for good test scores!
You don't know me...I heard about your blog through Kaidence's. (I met Kaidence and her family at Primary's last year. Both our little girls were in the PICU together.)
I just wanted you to know that I am praying for your little Gracie. She is such a beautiful baby girl! Your family is in our prayers.
Praying for your family and Gracie!!! You're in our thoughts and on our hearts-
Love,
Katie & Maddie
I came upon your blog through a friends. I don't know you personally, but I want you to know your family will be in my prayers every night. You have such a beautiful and amazing family. I pray with all my heart she is the best possible candidate for a heart.
Precious Michele~ I don't even have the words to express how deeply I am praying and hurting for you right now. I know this is never the news that you would want but it is a plan and God is good. I believe in miracles and I believe that every time I lay my eyes on your baby girl that I am looking at one! I am holding you all so closely...Gracie has stolen all of our hearts and we love her so so much. Praying for peace and miraculous hope that only comes from One Source! He loves her even more than you and He will take care of her...believe it! She serves a mighty purpose!
Love you, friend~ Rebecca
Hi guys..... I just heard the news and jumped on the blog to check up and get full details...... I don't even know what to say except that we love you guys and are praying for you all!! You are amazing! Your strength to carry on is an inspiration to us all! I tried to call and will try again later - just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers!
Lots of Love,
Matt, Suzy and family
Matthew 11:28-30:
"Come unto me, all you who labor and are heavy burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart and you shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light
Love you
Mom and Gary
I am a friend of Kaidence's mom and I just saw her post about your sweet little girl. I have been through the same with my son and at the time it seemed like it would never get better. He has now had his heart for 3 years this march and I never thought the day would come that I would think how fast it has gone. We waited 5 weeks but we were in the PICU the entire time. So there is hope and I hope things go well for all of you. You will be in our prayers.
Have you read of of this blog-
http://www.babyjellybeans.com/web/do/site/folder?ID=313473&parent_id=313473
There daughter who they adopted from China had a heart transplant and she is doing wonderful. I think the mom would be a lot of help with questions.
Sending lots of prayers to all of you!!!
Lots and Lots of Prayers!!!!
The Roatcaps
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